Shield yourself from negative energies!

Here is a technique you may use to shield yourself from negative energies! 

Take a magnet off of your refrigerator, and pass the magnet over your governing meridian. If you are alone, start between your eyebrows and pass the magnet up over the center of your forehead, over the center of the top of your head and down the center of the back of your head as far down your back as you can reach. If you have someone there with you, you can ask them pass the magnet over your spine from the base of your head down to your tailbone. (You don't have to do both, either pass the magnet over the top of your head or along your spine.) Keep doing this as you say these words: 

“I’m placing a shield around you.

It covers you completely and is permanent.

It will block all negative energies but will allow

Positive energies in.”

Sometimes the shield gets deactivated at night, so every morning

simply say "Shields up” to restore your shield. (You only need to pass

the magnet over your governing meridian the first time.)

Enjoy your day and feel free to love!

Being Vulnerable is scary, but it's liberating!

This morning I was sharing with my husband how vulnerable I feel because I always kept my truth neatly tucked away where I and only those whom I trusted could know and experience it! I was like a turtle that could go inside my shell! Its like the shell is gone now and I feel naked and vulnerable ever since my website went live! Everything I hold dear and precious is out there for the world to see and to like or not like!

Our subconscious creates a heartwall around our heart that protects our heart just like that turtle shell! Once you remove the trapped emotions that make up your heartwall you feel naked and vulnerable...but the amazing thing is you don't feel afraid! You feel open and calm and ready to love!

We have learned to associate vulnerability with fear! Being vulnerable is an important part of loving another person! It's the first step in trusting another person because by making yourself vulnerable you are actively trusting and believing in yourself! 

Being vulnerable is scary, but its liberating! Being scared is not being in fear. It is simply acknowledging that you are outside your comfort zone and by allowing yourself to be scared, you let the Universe send a true support system of other loving people into your life! Isn't that better than just carrying a shell of fear around with you everywhere!?!

Have a day filled with love and acceptance of yourself and others!

Your heart is your Second Brain

In my study of the Body Code, I've been introduced to the reality that our heart is actually a second brain in our body. Our hearts are filled with the same brain tissue that the brain has! Go to http://madurasinghe.blogspot.com/2008/06/neurocardiology-brain-in-heart.html if you want to know a little more about this. The magnetic fields of the heart and the brain are holographic fields that can be measured. Neuro cardiologists have done fascinating experiments that show that the heart puts out 60 -1000 times more energy than the brain puts out. They also found that when you are giving love to someone you are using your heart brain and that energy can be measured in another person.

This is all very fascinating. Why am I writing about this? Because the last few days I've been thinking a lot about using my heart brain more. The heart is the source of our gut instincts, and as a life coach I'm always talking to people about following their heart. As I think about it, I can find countless examples in my own life where I followed my heart and was met with resistance every step of the way! Have you ever heard any of the following comments directed toward you? You need to think things through more before you act. You're too emotional. Why are you doing that? What's your 10 year plan? You haven't really thought that through...

Yes it is important to have goals. It's important to think things through. It's an art to have powerful thoughts and intentions about your life and to know when the opportunities to make them happen present themselves. It takes knowing yourself and your dreams and goals very clearly in order to respond to that moment when opportunity knocks. Only you will know that it's an opportunity, because you know yourself and your deepest desires and dreams. Others may see it as crazy or irrational. But it makes all too much sense to you so you listen to your gut and go for it! This is how the heart works in our lives.

One reason we may not understand the heart brain very well is because it is so involved in feelings and we build walls around our heart once we get hurt. We stop using it, or paying attention to it because it may have gotten us into crazy situations one too many time. In her book Close to the Bone, Dr. Jean Shinoda Bolen talks about the short Greek myth about Procrustes and his bed. The story goes that when "traveling to Athens, you had to pass Procrustes and his bed. Procrustes would place you on his bed and see if you fit. Any part of you that did not fit, he cut off: whack! If you were too short for his bed, he would stretch you as if on a medival rack, until you did fit." While Dr. Bolen uses this myth to symbolize how we succumb to others' expectations on our road to success, I see it as also being symbolic of how we cut off our heart from relationships as we encounter hurtful experiences in love. We all want to be loved and love others. As we experience our disappointments in love from childhood on, we begin to stop using our heart and use our brain to maneuver ourselves through life and its myriad of relationships. We are like mice that once they are shocked by an electrical grid, they never will step foot on that grid again, lest they get shocked.

Rather than risk getting hurt, we follow our brain's logical guidance throughout our lives and that steers us in a logical way to an accepted, safe goal. We cut off the parts of us that would hold us back in any way from that goal. What happens when we reach that goal? Suddenly we feel empty and we don't feel whole, because we've gotten rid of so much of who we really are. We ask ourselves if this is really what it's all about? We experience a mid-life crisis and what do we do? We decide that we are going to try listening to our heart! As a life coach, I encourage (notice that the word encourage comes from the latin word "cour" which means "of the heart") people to follow their gut, follow their heart.

I've been good my whole life at listening to my heart when it comes to the big things in my life. I've jumped off many of cliffs! Now I'm working on my daily habits and asking myself whether the small choices I make reflect my deepest heart. I've had a lot of my limbs cut off in my life, only to find that I then needed to be stretched! I'm looking inward and listening to my own heartbeat and moving in the direction my heart leads. When I come to the daily forks in the road, where I am faced with the decision of going to the left or the right, I am now choosing to go straight ahead. I'm taking my own path and seeing where it leads me! I am taking the path of my heart!

Let's bring peace into the world!

Fear and Anger versus Love and Acceptance. That's the war that goes on in our minds every moment of every day. I had an experience yesterday where I was angry at my sister because she hadn't sent me something that she said she would. I assumed that she hadn't sent it because of something she said to me months ago. Then the Daily Love that I got this morning helped me to change my attitude. I totally accepted that whatever was happening, the Universe was working as it should. I cleared my aura and sent loving thoughts to my sister and told her today that I was going to take care of her because she's the only sister I have! It totally touched her heart, and mine too! (I also learned another lesson about not assuming anything. Don't assume the worst, always assume the best!)

This was such a stark example to me of how we determine the nature of our lives every moment as we choose to be in love and acceptance rather than in fear and anger. We need to live in the present and create love. When you find yourself bringing into the now of your life the negative energy of yesterday's experiences, you need to stop and clear your energy. Use violet light to push any negative energy out of your aura to the center of the earth where it can be dissolved. Bring in the golden light of love into your aura and allow yourself to feel grateful. Ask the Masters (Jesus, Buddha, etc.) to be close to you and help you to love. In this simple act of moving from negativity to light and love, you can transform your life. You can bring new life to any relationship. Allow yourself to be kind and loving. We have the power to love. We are meant to be loving beings. These simple acts of love in every moment of every day is what will change the world. When we change ourselves, we bring new life and fresh love to the universe.

When peace is within our hearts it can be manifest into the world. Peace is possible in this world, as we make it real in our moment to moment lives! Let's bring peace into the world!

Vacation....

For the first time in years I'm taking a vacation. No long term plans, just to relax and do things around the house that I haven't had time to get to, and to spend time with family and friends. I forgot how nice it is to not have to squeeze everything into 2 days. I'm so grateful and wish everyone could experience this.

My husband and I cleaned and rearranged our "tornado shelter" so that we can put a ping pong table down there. More ways to share fun times with family.

Laughter is good for the Soul!

I had so much fun last night enjoying my family being together. We cooked together, ate together and then played together. We played this great game called Mexican Train. It's a game of dominos with a Mexican twist. We all just laughed so hard as we appreciated the uniqueness of each of the wonderful characters in our family! Krysta, we missed you! Carena and Nicole, it was great to have you there as part of our family.

I hope you all find a way to laugh and have fun today. I truly believe the purpose of life is joy! Last night I fulfilled my purpose.

Forgive and forget

Growing up, my mom's mantra was forgive and forget. When I had an argument with a sibling, friend, anyone, she made us kiss and make up! Yes we giggled and laughed, but we did it! That simple act held so many lessons.

The overall lesson is forgiveness, but within that big lesson are so many little lessons. The first is to be able to stop the fighting and look into each other's eyes and say your sorry. Secondly to take action to embrace the other person even when it didn't feel comfortable is a lesson in going beyond your feelings to do the right thing. It's an acknowledgement that the relationship with the other person is more important than being attached to your point of view or a negative feeling. It's a statement that you are in love and acceptance of the other person, and of yourself. Contrary to what some might think, it takes a strong person to do all of these things; a strong belief in yourself and your self-image.

As a life coach, I feel I need to say that it's important to be in touch with your feelings and to know when a relationship is harmful. If your relationship has gotten to the point where you are beginning to feel that you are in danger, then it's still possible to forgive, but rather than kissing and making up, you may need to walk away and then forget! First and foremost you need to take care of yourself and being in an abusive relationship is not taking care of yourself!

Forgiving is an act of opening yourself to trust the person you love one more time. It's hard to make yourself vulnerable. As you practice it more and more, it gets easier.

I'm learning from my parents with Alzheimers the art of forgetting! One day I did something that my dad wasn't so happy about and the next day he simply forgot about it. He had no hard feelings, didn't bring it up to hash over what happened and why. It's just gone, and each new day brings a new start. How wonderful to be able to do that...to let it go, to forget it. It's one thing to say you forgive someone, but then are you able to let it go and not bring it up again? Are you able to simply forget about it? If you are, you are an amazing person.

Being in love and acceptance sounds so easy. As easy as being able to forgive and forget and to keep on loving and trusting in the goodness of the other person.